There’s often no real way to tell how happy a couple is from the outside looking in as everyone is pretty good at pretending when they want to be. However, a new study has shown that one indicator of happiness is how much the couple post about their relationship on social media.
As it turns out, those couples who clog up your news feed with selfies of themselves even in the most mundane of situations might be doing so to mask their relationship insecurities. They post every activity, no matter how small it is as they see it as another opportunity to remind the world how happy they are together. But an expert revealed that real happy couples don’t feel the need to post anything to prove their happiness.
Nikki Goldstein, a sexologist and relationship expert from Australia, said:
“In my job, I get to see what people post, but I also get to hear what goes on behind the scenes in those same relationships.
But as I look through my Facebook feed, everybody seems to tell me they’re so ecstatically happy.
Often it’s the people who post the most who are seeking validation for their relationship from other people on social media.
The likes and comments can be so validating that when someone is really struggling, that’s where they get their up from – not the person making the gesture, but what other people will say about it.”
With all those smiley selfies and posts about how lucky they are to be in this relationship, you should probably be really jealous, right? Wrong.
Goldstein suggested the couples so keen to take pictures of each other and immediately upload them to social media are often missing and not living in the moment with their partners.
“You see people who will focus so much on taking a ‘relfie’ – a relationship selfie – and getting the right filter and hashtags that they’re missing the moment.
I think, why don’t you take a photo because it’s a nice memory and a moment you want to look back to?
Couples are taking these photos, straight away putting them online and then watching the likes and comments instead of being with their partners.”
On the other hand, happy couples don’t need external validation to feel happy, they just are. They don’t base their relationship’s success on how others react to it.
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